Sorry Letters

Sorry LettersNow you’ve done it. Through carelessness, frustration or a simple misunderstanding, you’ve hurt someone you love. You’re left wondering how to repair the damage you’ve done to your relationship. Why not try writing sorry letters? They’re a great way to express your remorse to the person you’ve wronged, and sorry letters are easy to write if you follow a few simple guidelines.

Here’s an example you can use when writing your own sorry letters:

Dear Maria,

I’m so sorry I hurt your feelings by not inviting you to my Fourth of July party last week. I didn’t mean to hurt you, but I can understand why that made you feel like I don’t value our friendship. You’re very important to me; you’ve always been there to help me, whether I needed a helping hand or a sympathetic ear.

Most of the people at the party were coworkers, so maybe that’s why I forgot to invite you or any of my other friends from church. I wish I had remembered though, because it would have been fun to have you there. I had such a great time talking to you at our last party (and everyone enjoyed the delicious bean dip you brought).

Steve and I are planning to have another cookout later this summer. You’ll be at the top of the guest list for that one!

Your friend,

First things first: apologize for your behavior. The sample letter above begins with the words, “I’m so sorry.” But be specific. Just saying, “I’m sorry” in your sorry letters isn’t enough; your sorry letters should describe your mistake more specifically, so your boyfriend, girlfriend or best friend will know you understand why they’re upset.

But don’t stop with an apology. It’s also important for your sorry letters to let your loved one know how you plan to make up for your mistake. In the sample sorry letter above, Lauren tells Maria that she will be sure to invite her to her next cookout. This lets Maria know that Lauren’s failure to invite her to the Fourth of July party wasn’t intentional.

Here’s another tip: mention a good time you and your friend have shared in the past in your sorry letters. Whether it was an exciting vacation, an interesting conversation or a fun party, it’s a good idea to include it in your sorry letters. Bringing up a cherished memory in your sorry letters will remind your loved one why they’re friends with you in the first place.

Don’t forget that long sorry letters aren’t the only way to say you’re sorry. If you’re apologizing to a friend or coworker for a minor mistake or inconvenience, you can keep your sorry letters short and sweet; just a couple of sentences will do. Just write short sorry notes instead of a full-length sorry letters.

The good news is that most people are eager to forgive their loved ones once they’ve received sincere, heartfelt sorry letters. So get a pen and paper and start writing your own sorry letters. You’ll feel better once your relationship is back on the right track.

Find out more about Sorry Letters to Friends and read about Sorry Letters to Your Girlfriend.

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